The Superpower of Softness in Business and Life with Aimee-Jean Greenacre
EP 56

The Superpower of Softness in Business and Life with Aimee-Jean Greenacre

Show Notes: 

In this nourishing conversation, Tonya sits down with Aimee-Jean Greenacre — Certified Holistic Healer, Feminine Cycles Coach, and founder of Women’s Flow Coaching — to explore the power of softness, cyclical living, and embodied leadership. Aimee shares her story of healing from burnout and disconnection, her path to honoring her womb wisdom, and the ways women can reclaim their energy and creativity by aligning with their natural rhythms. This episode is an invitation to let go of hustle and step into harmony with your body, nature, and the feminine way of leading.

You’ll hear about:

  • Aimee’s extraordinary birth story and how it shaped her connection to pleasure and vitality
  • The cost of trying to “succeed like a man” and the wake-up calls that redirected her path
  • The difference between women in hyper-masculine overdrive and those lost in unstructured feminine flow
  • How cycle syncing can help you align your energy, creativity, and work with your biology
  • The myth of softness as weakness and why gentleness is a profound form of power
  • Fertility narratives, egg freezing, and the importance of conscious conception conversations
  • Practical ways to honor your cyclical body and create more flow in business and life

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Show Transcript:

Tonya: Okay. Hello, Amy. Welcome to the Rainbo Podcast. I am, I've been so excited for this conversation.

Aimee: Me too, darling. Thank you for having me. I'm so grateful.

Tonya: It's, it's always so amazing to see your shining, shining face. I start every episode the same way, which is asking you or us to tune into what is invoking a sense of gratitude in you today.

Aimee: Well, I am currently looking out at just this expansive view of nature. I am currently in Ibiza, um, which, and it's a really beautiful time of year. It's like right before the busy season here, so it's really gentle. Lots of nature, lots of time with just really sweet community. But definitely always number one is mother nature and the fact that I'm surrounded by just trees.

I put my feet in the grass right before this and just, yeah, mother nature is always my answer. But right now, the sweetness of this island is giving me all the, all the nourishing feels.

Tonya: I love that. I love that so much. Uh, and for me today I am, I actually kind of randomly woke up and it was like one of those ideas that just like popped into my mind, which was like, today there's no complaining. Today we're just, we're just gonna be really aware of our words. And so it's now kind of turn, it's like only, you know, 8:00 AM here, but Simon and I like any, any little thing, I'm kind of being like, so yeah, today's a no complaining day.

And like, let's notice that. And it's just kind of like a really, uh, sweet reminder about, 'cause I don't consider myself a major complainer, but I think we'd often be surprised about some of the things that come out of our mouths. So I'm getting a little bit of interference.

Aimee: Me too. I just made the screen a little bigger.

Tonya: Okay. I wonder if it was, hang on. I think it's my cords. So just give me a quick moment.

Aimee: It was, it only happened when I made the screen bigger.

Tonya: Oh, oh, maybe it's not my cords. Okay.

Aimee: Okay, lemme try and go back to that. Yeah. Maybe this, when I put this talk now.

Tonya: Testing.

Aimee: Okay. I put the track app back and now it's, maybe the screen was too big and it's like too much like information trying to pixel, I don't know.

Tonya: I wonder. Okay. Maybe, um, okay. Anyways, we'll just,

Aimee: Edit that out.

Tonya: we'll cut that part out. So anyways, I'm grateful for this little practice that we're doing, we're experimenting with today. It feels fun and like it's bringing awareness into our day already.

Aimee: Yeah. I actually had a very similar experience this week. I dunno if it was the full moon energy and just bringing up all of the things that we can complain about, you know, bringing that negativity or that like lack mentality first. But I felt that this week and I was like, okay. Yes, there's a lot of things that I are not going my way right now or out of control or like really feeling the feels.

And so I, I really, I had a similar practice where I was just like, let's focus on everything that is wonderful and good and all the good things for today. So I think it's like a similar thing. So maybe there's some Scorpio energy just bringing that, you know, to see that, that there is, you know, the, the depth with the,

Tonya: Totally.

Aimee: of it.

Tonya: Totally. I love that a lot. Well, I. I know that you were born by orgasmic birth, and I think I know you've told this story. I don't know how many times you've told this story, but I love it so much because I feel like that has imbued some beautiful vital life force into you that has emerged through your whole life and set the tone for you.

And I also just think as women, we need to hear more of those stories as often as possible, those birthing stories. So could you share a little bit about that experience for your mother, for how you think that has kind of shaped your view of life? Pleasure, vital energy.

Aimee: Mm. Yeah, I would love to share this story. So for the, I'm just gonna share with the listeners as well because it's still tender to my heart. But my mom had passed away in November, um, after a two year journey with cancer. And I got to spend some really quality time with her, um, you know, walking her home, which is probably one of the greatest gifts I think any mother-daughter relationship can have.

And we got to revisit this story, like, revisit, you know, what it meant and why she did it, just so I could have more context of it. So I asked her again, you know, in these final weeks of her life and, you know, I was, I'm one of four. Children, and I was the only one that she happened to birth this way into the world.

She did all natural births except for my little sister, which was a cesarean c-section cord wrapped around the head, the whole thing. So she had four very different birthing stories. And with me in particular, it wasn't necessarily planned to be a home birth with, you know, this natural, you know, way of doing it.

She was in a hospital and she'd been reading a book and self-educating around the possibility that she could, um, bring a baby into the world this way. And so, you know, it was a very clinical situation. And my dad was there with her and she said that she had mostly male, you know, nurses on, um, the ward that night.

And she shared with me that, you know, it was, it was. Really hard for her to bring me out. She was only on Happy Gas, and she's like, you know what, I'm just gonna try this. And so she had been sharing with the doctors, I think earlier, the nurses earlier, and saying, I've been reading a book and I would like to try this if that's okay.

And they're like, whatever is gonna help, go for it. You know? And so it, it, it basically was her tuning into her own body and, and trusting her own body that it was possible. But it was at this almost like a last resort. That's what my, my other sister had shared with me. She was like, you wouldn't come out.

That's why she did it. You know? And it's, it's quite an interesting, I think, you know, um, understanding of when it's so painful, when things can be so hard that like, we can turn to pleasure to actually relax and release and allow what needs to happen. Actually. And so that's basically what happened. You know, she was able to, um, stimulate her, her pain points, these, you know, um, contractions in the last really painful part of bringing a child aside, which is like the crowning in the head.

And she said that releasing her muscles was the thing that actually went through. And so that's basically the story. And it worked. And it was an orgasm, an orgasm that brought me forward and brought me here to Earth, and which is just so beautiful to even know that that's possible. But I feel like if she had not have read that book, she didn't have anyone else around her telling her that this is a possibility that you know, that you can do this.

Um, in full transparency, like my dad's very uncomfortable with me sharing this and saying these things online. I, I do agree that like more women need to know this and, and she said to me that it brought our relationship so much closer as well, because I wasn't informed of this until I was. Like I was, I was later in on, in my life when we were both studying holistic nutrition and there's an incredible teacher, um, her name's Dr.

C Ann Northup, she's one of my favorite writers. Um, she wrote women's, uh, bodies, women's Wisdoms. It's like a, a bible of a book. And she was one of the teachers in our training and they said, go home and ask your mom what your birth story is, because a lot of our health disruptions happened later on in our lives or even earlier on in our children's lives are because of how they were birthed into the world.

And so that was when I got to go and ask my mom. And that was the first time she told me. And it was such a beautiful. Story to know about my birth story, because I think I've always intuitively known that I have this like, you know, cup huff, full pleasure, seeking joy, you know, kind of energy and, and I think that has a lot and, and health and vitality as well.

Like, I haven't had any real know health issues touch wood, you know, in my earlier years. And I think that has a lot to do with the choices that my mom made for me and my sisters and my family. And, you know, there's, there's still plenty of other, you know, um, emotional stuff that went on inside of our family that, you know, has definitely, I'm still working on those parts, but from my health and vitality perspective, yeah, I, I do,

Tonya: Yeah, I'm like crying.

Aimee: it was.

Tonya: Thank you. Thank you for sharing that. And, um, I'm sorry if I like, if that was. Tender, and I maybe should have asked, but thank you so much for sharing that. I, I actually had like goosebumps as you were saying that about the crowning, and I think as I, um, as I think about childbirth as well, I'm just trying to be surrounded by stories like this, because I think the beautiful thing about hearing and learning about orgasmic birth too is that there's, um, it's not like it's a painless experience, but it's this transition from, you know, some hypno, hypnotherapy, um, or hypnobirthing practices.

Try to like eliminate the word pain as well and just call it sensation and use the, these like tidal waves of sensation to ride and to release into and like. That's also, you know, there's so many parallels to an orgasm in that, uh, in that experience. So I, that's such a beautiful story and I am so grateful to hear it, so thank you.

Aimee: I want her legacy to live on, and I want this to be known, and I'm so proud of the, I'm gonna cry now, the woman that I.

Tonya: yeah,

Aimee: Our mothers choose to raise us, and the choices that our mothers make and the choices that women have to make, you know, to bring children into this world. It's like, it's, it's a miracle on so many

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: and it has such a beautiful knock on effect to the people that we come today.

And, you know, I'm so, so grateful for her. I thank you, mom for like, everything that she did. It's why I do this

Tonya: you. Amy's mom.

Aimee: you know? Here.

Tonya: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, how incredible that you both did, uh, that holistic nutrition program together too. Like what a, what a dream.

Aimee: Yeah. I know this is like a, an interview where you asked me the questions, but what about your mom, you know, how did she influenced you to get into this work as well and become the woman that you are today doing magical work in the world?

Tonya: Uh, well, I, my, my whole, I guess, conception, the conception and the birth are, they're tied in some ways. Um, where I was like a complete surprise and unplanned. And I came in like when she fainted on a subway, which was how she found out that she was pregnant. And, um, I. I guess through the, like in my birth, I should, like, I should talk.

I'm, I'm going on a family trip, um, in a week and a half, so I'll see her. So I, I should get the full details. But what I remember from it at this moment is that I basically came out with Wi Eyes wide open and she brought me into her arms and just said like, I've been waiting, I've been waiting my whole life for you.

And she, she, she told me that she was almost like, why did I say that? Like she said that just came out of her, came out of someplace and that there was this feeling of, um, really being here and being present and wanting to be here. And that feels very, very accurate of this just like curiosity. And I think, you know, that, that feels, that feels like it's just like been a thread through my life of, um. Questioning and never, not in awe ever since I was little, like everything is just like, oh my God. Like, and so I feel simultaneously new and old, like in my experience of being here, I feel like a very old cosmic soul, but a relatively new earthly soul in some ways. So, yeah. Um, yeah. Yeah,

Aimee: go ask your mom for like, more of the birth details and, and see like anyone who's listening to this, it's such a beautiful just moment to connect with your mom, you know, to have that and some, some might not have such a pleasant story, but it's, it's beautiful just to know and have that like connection of like the mother child and even later on in life, you know, for the,

Tonya: Yeah.

Aimee: so many things that it brought to, uh, to our relationship.

Tonya: Oh, well, I'm so excited to dive into your work. And so we're friends in real life, which I'm so grateful for. And Simon says hello, by the way. I was like telling him I was, he was like, oh, tell me about Amy. And while we were making our morning matcha, I was like, she's amazing. She does all these things. And he was like, whoa, I had no idea.

So he, he sends his hellos and we have a little spot on our property open for you in Topanga, should you ever wish to come back.

Aimee: I think I'm like in the summer, like July, August, so yes.

Tonya: Oh, okay. Okay. I love that. Um, but I wanted to chat about this idea of soft power and how, how women can transform through this, um, surrendering process or how it kind of evolves, how you define it.

Aimee: Yeah. Okay. So yes, this whole soft, soft woman era, soft power, it's a, it's something that's very new to me if I'm being completely honest. It's nothing that was ever. Really taught to me as awo as a young woman. Um, I grew up in Australia, which is such a beautiful country, but we have a lot of equality there.

Like men and women kind of are equals we can play sports, you know, get our careers in the same fields. We have pretty equal opportunity, equal acts, access to, you know, life and which is a big, you know, shift I think from, you know, only a couple of centuries ago where women didn't have as much access and, and opportunity.

So this, this idea of soft, soft woman, um, soft power really was presented to me I think later in my life where I. My body had burnt out from trying so hard to succeed in a world, in a paradigm that just really wasn't really built for the feminine body, the female way of being. Our cycles, our periods, you know, the, the, just our more sensitive nature.

You know, I think we have this beautiful gift of, um, birthing children into the world, obviously. And, and with that comes this intu intuition in our wombs in this area. And our cycles are these beautiful monthly reminders of this journey that we do get to go on ourselves. As women, we, we are both creating every month and then releasing, you know, and so we have this cyclical energy that lives inside of us, and then we are expected to perform and to.

Operate in a world that is a very mass masculine, patriarchal society. Nine to five culture, even 5:00 AM culture to, you know, pushing ourselves beyond our means and our, our biology is just not created for this kind of system and structure. And so I learned the hard way from burning out and, you know, often just trying to prove my worth and trying to succeed in a world that just wasn't built for me.

So I suffered from, I think I, I can look back in many stages of my life where I think I denied listening to my body. Going on contraception was probably the first one where I just wanted to fit in and be like all the other women and take control of my body. So that was when I was 16. I had no idea of the implications that I was doing.

I just like followed this like someone else telling me what to do, you know, rather than this.

Tonya: I wasn't even like sexually active when I got

Aimee: Me neither until I, and, and I didn't. Yeah, I didn't even have, I had a partner, but we weren't at all sexually active until later. I was very Christian actually. So for me, that wasn't the reasoning, but it was for my skin.

It was for vanity. It was for trying to fix, you know, rather than asking, all right body, what's going on? Why is this happening? And so that was probably definitely where I gave away my power at a very young age. And I think that led to making some very unaligned choices in my life, for sure. You know, not, um, who knows if I would've, you know, dated the same people or studied the, the courses that I did if I was in touch, because it is completely switching us off from that intuitive power that we have.

So that was the first chapter where I think I gave away my power and was not connected to myself. Um, and listening to something outside of myself, a system, a structure that says, this is how we do it here in our society. Just take the pill. It's a blanket approach to fixing most female health.

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: Um, and then as I went into my, you know, post university university into post university, it was just this, like following this system, this path that is laid out for us.

Um, very, very overachieving, pushing past our limits. And then if we're not happy, we just outsourcing, um, our emotions to, you know, alcohol or partying or sex or consumerism, whatever it is for your distraction. You know, again, versus like listening to like, well, why do I feel this way or why, you know, what's going on?

And I, I, after I came off the pill, actually I had a, I had a pretty serious, um, health procedure, a lets procedure where the lining of my uterus was burnt away, um, from irregular pap smear. And I think a lot of women have.

Tonya: This is my story too. A to a T. This is wild.

Aimee: so you just, I'm just mirroring you, I'm just sharing, sharing our stories. That was my wake up call. That was one of my first wake up calls where I, I, my womb, I, I know, was like shaken and awakened for the first time. One, it was one, it was the first time I had ever been to a western medical hospital.

I'd never been to hospital up until that day. I had been put under a general acid, also had never experienced that before in my life. And I remember waking up naked in the hospital under a gown, just like uncontrollably shaking and, and coming, coming out of it. And I was like, it was like my womb had been invaded.

My most sacred part of my female body had been invaded and, and disrupted and. And I had this like, wake up call of like, I never wanna go on the pill again. Like I feel like the pill was what had caused these irregular spells. And I, and it was the first time I think something genuinely woke up in me from my womb, from this part of my, my body.

And that was like the first shift. And then I think, you know, it was a lot of learning and growing and opening and understanding, but I still was trying to perform and, and to, to act like a man. Let's be completely honest, I was still working way beyond my means, trying so much harder to be successful and earn money and do all these things where I was pushing and forcing and, and I was not at home in my body.

It was always uncomfortable, you know, whether that was, you know, confidence or worthiness. You could, you could break it down to a lot of these, um. You know, issues that I think a lot of, not both men and women struggle with, but women in particular really struggle with, you know, um, because we're, we're comparing ourselves to a standard that is just not even in the same category.

Um, okay. Fast forward, um, until my thirties where, okay, so I actually quit my corporate career. I've quit my job and changed countries and moved a lot. I think my very strong. It's always guiding me to something bigger and more, and something bigger and something more. And I, and I believe that's because I'm very in touch with my intuition.

And if something doesn't fill out of alignment, I can't. I'm a generator as well. I just can't force it and fake it. So I've changed my career. I quit my job and tried again, quit my job, moved countries, quit my, you know, uh, relationship, moved countries again. So this is fast forwarding to probably like. The third time I've done this, I'm, I'm moved to, um, la I was 30 and I studying holistic nutrition.

So I was launching my career as a health coach and moving to the US and once again, I fell into a career. So this time I was more in alignment. I'm holistically healing. I'm, you know, I healed my body. I came over at a five year relationship and I was, I definitely feel like this sadden return moment where I was coming home to my power and coming home to the person who I'm meant to be, um, closer to her.

And, and then I, and then I found a career in, as a natural food chef and healing others with my food. Again, my mom taught me how to eat this way and I'd been around food and culture in London where I lived with my ex-boyfriend. Food was a huge part of who I am, and, and I really understood that, wow, the way that my mother had raised me to eat is not how the rest of the world was raised through.

So this is what called me to do this course. Anyway, I fell into being a chef and in the same thing, I just was hustling. I was working long hours all. Monday to Friday and weekends doing retreats, traveling around the world, just like again, pushing past my body until I had the most crippling, painful periods of my entire life where I could not stand up at at my kitchen to be cooking.

I was like, you know, oh my God, I'm, I had to take painkillers and I was working for a family. I'd always lost the nanny. Do you have painkillers? Are you okay? I'm like, I'm fine. I'm fine. Just gimme painkillers. I have to push through. I have to cook. I have to take care of these other people, you

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: And I knew better, but I had no idea.

This was around 34, 33, 34. This started happening to me and I had no idea about cycle sinking. I had no idea I had absolute, I, I knew I had a period and I knew I was healthy if I had a healthy period. And, um, and it was only when I started working with the naturopath and understanding and then doing my own research into understanding my cycle.

Alyssa Vita in the Flow Woman Code, all of these incredible books, Lisa Drakes The Fifth Vital Sign. Anyway, I, women's Bodies, women's Wisdoms. I could send you a whole list of all the books that I,

Tonya: Amazing. We will even link those ones.

Aimee: I found out at the age of 34 that you know how we are not living in alignment with our cycle. And I was like, I have been doing this all wrong. Of course, my body's screaming at me. I'm never resting. I'm never taking the time to be. Soft and to be a woman and to understand what that means. And so I have now spent the later half of my thirties basically working with women to help them heal their relationship with their body and to understand that as women, we are not meant to live and work the same way as men.

And that actually we are the healers, the creators, the people who are meant to be here on earth. We have a set of this beautiful, intuitive power that is so amazing when we know how to tap into it. And it's not about working like men. We actually need to to rest and to restore and honor our body and honor what's going on inside of us.

Both mind, body and spirit and earth, and the cycles of nature as well. And. That's how I have now formed my business and my career as a soft woman, CEO, where I run my own company and teaching other women how to do that as well. How to come home to their softness and their femininity and, and knowing that that is actually their superpower.

That there's nothing for being sensitive and intuitive and emotional. Like it's not hormones. It's you, your deeply feeling body that is so powerful. And when women come home to that, wow, their whole life can transform. And it's like you magnetize, you attract you. You're, you're in this like beautiful, empowered version of yourself versus trying to be perfect in a man's world.

And it will never, it's never gonna work. So that's my story and how I gotta teaching this.

Tonya: I love, I love that. And there's, yeah, it's such an unraveling process of, uh, of hus of, of the hustle and I mean, it's, so, I I, there's a million a million ways I could, I guess, go from here and deeper, like more questions. But I think like something that comes up for me is just how the, there's a myth around softness.

That softness is not power or that it's PEs that, that it's passive. And I think that's something that I, I really wanna bust as well, because like you said, it is this, I think when, when we actually step into that, the fierceness of that power is, is both soft, but it can be so powerful

Aimee: Oh, it's, it is untouched. I feel like it's untouch.

Tonya: Untouched.

Aimee: for most women, if we're as modern women, you know, and I think there's this, a lot of us are so uncomfortable with being relaxed and being aggressive and being soft. Like there's this, a lot of the clients I work with, there's this sense of guilt that they're not doing that they have to be, even like, if you're trying to fix or heal or do something, like the softness doesn't come as a natural way of healing.

It's, it's, it's this like, oh, I gotta do more things. Do I do it a cleanse? Do I do this? Do I do? It's like this doing mentality that is constantly taking us out of this natural flow, which is actually, if we just back and allow, like the body knows what to do, earth knows what to do. There is no, we're, it's, we've been bought into this illusion that we have to be doing something successful, which the opposite doing is, is just being, and, and, and the softness comes from.

Acknowledging and loving the nothingness.

Tonya: Part of me wonders too about the, the archetypal woman or mother rather, and that feeling of like holding the weight of the world on your shoulders because there is a lot, like, there, there is a lot to hold. You know what I mean? And I can only imagine a mother and the, the feeling of that enhancing to some extent just based off of the mothers I have these conversations with.

But it's like that's gonna be such a different initiation as well to maintain that softness throughout that phase. I, I can imagine.

Aimee: Totally. Well, there's so much pressure, and I guess yeah, it is, it is easy to speak to the, you know, the luxury of having maybe time, um, and the luxury to invite in the doing and this, the softness of just being. Um, but I, I do witness. You know, my best friends that are mothers, my sister, and the people who, who have done, I guess, a bit of this healing work or understanding their holistic power of just like even the, the presence of just meeting your child at their level as well.

Like, I feel like sometimes we're overcomplicating the parenting and the mothering and it's actually the child is also there to, to teach us in those, to the presence, you know, coming us back down to with them, um, speaking to one part of motherhood because yes, there is a lot of pressure that that comes not only as mothers, but as women in general.

The, you know,

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: idea of perfectionism, I feel like is such a strongly ingrained, you know, to be successful, to look a certain way, to, to be fit, to be healthy, to be mindful, to have all these practices and you know,

Tonya: Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Aimee: perfect woman.

Tonya: Such, such an illusion. And it's always like, I always just come back to authenticity. And that just being the key to, um, to parts of these things. Like, I notice in myself when I'm like, oh, like, oh my gosh, do I need to read all these parenting books? But then I'm like, what if it was just the most inherently natural thing?

And I like, and I'm completely prepared and like, yeah, there's, there's, it's such a, it's such a nuanced process. I wonder what, there's probably a lot of places that you start, but when you're working on, on unraveling some of these, um, I guess, uh, conditionings of around, around the doing, how do you, how do you do that with clients?

Is there, are there practices? Like how would you suggest somebody start there?

Aimee: Hmm. It's a, it's, um, multilayered depends on the person. Um, the thing that's coming to mind as we, just, even on the point before, but one of the, the most important practices, I think is to express and not suppress and the, the. I think I even watched your story about dancing and, and, and releasing and dancing recently, and that is one practice that I think that I is one of the most important thing, but for me personally and also for my clients, is to sometimes we have to shake things up, you know, really, really express what we're not, what we're feeling on the inside.

Um, and again, it really depends on the type of client that's coming to me. So I tend to attract in two different type of women. We either have the hyper-masculine type, a overworked, corporate girly who has just been striving to be successful and she's in this like, kind of type a very, very highly strong, um.

Overworked, usually having a lot of health symptoms like thyroid conditions or, um, gut dysbiosis, endometriosis where she's really just suppressed her feminine energy and pushed past her limits. Adrenals and especially endometriosis, tends to be a, a manifestation of not expressing the feminine, um, painful periods, infertility, things like this where they're high in cortisol and they're highly performing individuals.

So when I work with these clients, it's about bringing her back into a sense of safety, regulating her nervous system. Usually that can be through many different modalities. Meditation, journaling, um, earthing, spending time in nature, quiet time, really just tuning into learning how to listen and how to be okay with being still and soft and gentle.

Encouraging her to do a lot of, um, feminine practices, whether that's bathing or, um, you know, oiling her body massage, self massage, pleasuring, slowing. Down is like the really beautiful, uh, opposite of that high energy woman and nourishment nurturing. It's like all of these things that she hasn't been able to give to herself because she's been so busy.

And for some people that's really foreign and really hard to do the slowing down. I love a lot of like, um, mirror work as well, like speaking to themselves in the mirrors. I love when they are also naked and being with their bodies and being very like still and present and tuning into just, you know, what's going on.

Obviously cycle sinking, understanding their body and how their body works is a big part of that as well. A lot of these, um, are just helping the feminine feel nourished and

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: feminine. Again, tap into her softness. So that would be probably most of the, the. Practices or rituals, they tuning into the moon cycles as well.

The New Moon and the Full Moon. Um, having these little connections to earth and the cycles around them, just to tune them back into like the presence and the slowness of like the, the natural way of being, which again, she's probably drinking coffee and alcohol and, you know, and on most of the time. So just bringing her body back to presence and the cyclical nature, the nature is a really huge healing part of that.

And then I have, the majority of the clients I work with these days that I keep attracting in are the. The FI wouldn't call them the wounded feminine, that's definitely not the word to describe it. But she's, she's the, she's in her softness, she's in her yin, she has, you know, done yoga teacher trainings and breathwork trainings, and she's done, she's maybe left the corporate world.

She knows her body. She eats well. She knows what to do. She's very much in tune. And she's in her feminine, but in her feminine so much that she is sinking and drowning in the yin, all the feelings, all the emotions, all the time. And she's just drowning. And she doesn't, and she's, she's, it can be chaos as well.

It's this like, ah, I don't know what to do with my life and how do I survive? And I have no money and I need to, ah, it's like this, the, the chaotic feminine. Okay. And she's, she's

Tonya: Yeah.

Aimee: beautiful. And, and, and she understands that there's the, her body, the cycles, the ebbs and flows, but she's so in it that she has no.

Structure to get out of that. And she's, it's the, this lacking the, um, I guess the, the masculine in a way lacking the structure for this feminine, divine feminine energy to flow into. So with these types of clients, we're, we're informing how to bring structure into their life, how to be strong. A lot of them, I get them doing like weights and working out and building this inner strength physically so that they actually have the capacity to hold more structure and rhythms so that they are showing up and devoting and dedicating themselves, whether that's time or calendar structure a little bit more.

And then working with how to commit to just one thing at a time and following through with it, and then adding more on. And that's usually about building out, you know. Structure in their businesses. So I teach a lot about marketing and social media and business, um, goal setting. And, and, but again, I'm still working with the calendar.

I'm working with Mother Nature's seasonal calendars. We're doing launches around, you know, their body. I work with a lot of astrology and the moon and the planets. And so I'm giving them this structure again, working with nature and working with how to work with still being in her feminine, still honoring that she's a woman and she has these gifts, but how do we, how do we structure our lives so that we still have this flow and momentum and we're reaching our goals.

A lot of, uh, you know, intention setting and, and goal setting and it's practical masculine structure to help this beautiful feminine energy to flow and actually see it come to fruition. And, and this is definitely. Soft, powerful woman when she's embodied and she's empowered. She knows when to show up, how to show up, and, um, cycle sinking again is a huge part of, you know, the business structure and her, her life structure.

And yeah, that's, that's a lot more of the women that I tend to attract in these days who are women who are like, I, I've done all the things. I've quit the job. I'm in my family now. What, you know, and we still need to flow. We definitely still need that structure to flow. So that's kind of the two that I, and again, some of them still need reminders of the nourishment, nutrition, and the slowing down.

And this body work and things to work with is, you know, there's the soul work, but.

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: Both of the clients. For women, it's, it's our conditioning. It's the belief system. It's the stuff that we've been told to believe, whether that comes from our parents, our peers, or society in general. And no matter, that's where I start with my clients.

It's like, come, what's your story? What do you believe about your body? What do you believe about your role here on earth? And really transforming them to understand that their body and that their role here is to be a woman and to honor that first, and then we start to build from there. Rewriting period story is one of the practices I, I love to teach.

It's like, what do you believe about your body? What have you been told to believe about body and what do you believe about yourself, your life? What do, what conditioning got you to this place of, you know, outta life? For examples, come to me.

Tonya: I you did such a, an amazing job at painting those pictures because there's just, it's like, I, I recognize so much in both sides at different stages, and both of those women so much. And it just like, yeah, it really, it, it was such a vivid, a vivid, um, vivid imagery. Will you tell us about cycle sinking?

So how do you, how do you define this? What are you doing during ovulation? What are you doing? Uh, all of those beautiful things.

Aimee: Absolutely. I wanted to know question, where do you fall? Where do you feel like you fall? Are you.

Tonya: it's so, I, I feel like I can really walk the line of both such a way where. I feel really in tune with when I am too much in my masculine and as a business owner, there are just moments where you gotta get shit done and it's your business and you just have to, I. You have to walk in that world. Um, in a way it's always gonna be in like my way, but I've gotta make decisions naturally.

I've got to like, you know, um, create structure. I'm not myself a structured person, so I find other people who have that gift and talent to create structures, but I know when they're needed. Um, and then I similarly know if I am too far leaning in that way, that I'll start to overcompensate this way, or I just, I know the feeling when I need to step more into my feminine.

And, and it also comes in waves and phases. So now being six years into my business, I have less tolerance. I, I'm just doing different things. I'm letting other people do more of that masculine side of things, and I'm really letting myself step more into this side of it. So. I feel, I feel really lucky to have both in a really balanced way and it's never ever perfect and I just know how to like meander through.

But I would say my nature is definitely very feminine.

Aimee: Yeah, I feel that about you. But how beautiful that you are like integrated. And I think that's the goal and that's the dream, is that we need both. We can't, you know, need the masculine and we need the feminine and we need them to be in this beautiful harmony. And it is a dance, you know, it's a dance between giving and I think this is where cycle sinking to segue into that section, like cycle sinking is such a gift for us to understand that there are two very different parts of us as women and our energy and our biology, it shifts and changes throughout the month.

So if, so cycle thinking generally 1 0 1 is that we are. Four different women in one month. We have. Two phases. I would say, I think it's better to call them two phases because, um, there is two events that happen. So I'm gonna start with the events. The first event that happens is our menstruation. So that is the technically day one of your, your period cycle is your menstruation.

So the day that you start bleeding is technically day one. And then the next event we have usually is around 14 to 21 days, depending if you have a 28 day cycle, 32, 35. 35 is generally like the longer of the cycles. So if you're a 28 day cycler, then around day 14 is the second event, which is our ovulation.

So that is the time of the month where we have our egg that is produced, which is that creative, beautiful life force energy. And in between menstruation and the ovulation is the follicular phase. So this is like the first chunk of the month that is where our body is producing hormones to produce an egg, a healthy egg so that we can have a baby.

And every month we do this and it starts quite low and our hormones rise until it reaches the peak where the ovulation ti timing is perfect. And then the second half of our cycle is the luteal phase. And this is where after the egg has been released, it'll start to dip. The hormones start to dip. And what happens, the body thinks that it is pregnant.

It thinks that it is keeping the body safe and it's holding space for, uh, that little egg inside of your womb until it realizes that it's not fertilized. And that happens exactly 12 days after your ovulation. So ovulation.

Tonya: Sorry. Yeah, I just wanna, I wanna make sure I understand that. Um, ovulation 14 on a 28 day cycle, and then the body holds that egg for seven

Aimee: 12 days, 12 days.

Tonya: 12

Aimee: 12 days approximately. There is one, um, luteal phase issue, a health issue, which can, it can force the luteal phase to be longer. But if you are having, you know how people think, oh, I, I haven't had a period, I've missed a period. It's actually, you've skipped ovulation and your body is waiting for it to feel safe enough to have a baby.

Tonya: Um,

Aimee: So ovulation is really your marker of health and vitality. If you're having a regular period, it means that ovulation is on time. Anytime that your body feels unsafe, then ovulation is elongated so that you'll have a longer follicular phase. Or actually think people give luteal phase a much worse wrap because they're like, oh, I'm, my period doesn't come.

But once I learn, um, Lisa Hendricks, the fifth vital sign, has a lot of, um, really juicy information around these, these topics. Yeah. And I, and the 12 days from your lu face. So the first day that you ovulate is a peak in your temperature rises, and that's when your body knows that it's ovulation. So I track mine with my aura ring now, and I've been using this for a bit over two years now.

A year and a half. It's really helpful to track your, your temperature. So cycle sinking is really just understanding that your body is, is really going through a cycle that you'd go through this beautiful shifting, changing both hormonally and energetically throughout the month. And it's really important to understand where you're at in your cycle so that you can start to design your life around what is naturally gonna be serving your energy and how you're feeling.

So understanding it first and foremost. When do you, when do you start bleeding? You can start from day one and counting it and tracking it. Getting a period app is wonderful. I think it's also really important to understand your body and what happens and the symptoms and, and the, and the shifts and changes that happen as well.

So I'm actually ovulating today, today's day of my ovulation. And I was sitting down, um, as I pulled up this screen podcast and I was like, you know what? The hair is hairing, the skin is glowing. This

Tonya: It's all working.

Aimee: this is a sign of your ovulation from a

Tonya: Mm.

Aimee: perspective. Your body is literally producing, um, high amounts of estrogen, and it is that happy, feel good hormone that makes you, your skin glow, your hair glow because your body is doing all of this to attract a mate, to have a baby.

So it's, it's, it's in sync with what you know we are meant to be doing from a physical perspective as well. Your, your womb, your, um, you'll have more of a discharge or a, a juicier, um, yeah, discharge is the best way to describe it. This is your cervical mucus. And this is also to, you know, if you're making a baby or have making love, it is to attract in the right pH level semen to make a baby as well.

So the body's amazing and what it does. Cervix is lower. You can also, so there are two physical things that I think once you're aware of your body and understanding your body, knowing that that happens. Um, and then temperature rising body starts to hold retention in the luteal phase. Um, and so I think just understanding your body and understanding what's going on, um, is really helpful.

And then we go into that bleed again. Now from an energetics point of view, because I think everything is energy and as women, the more that we can understand why we feel a certain way or why we might be feeling a bit off. And two things usually happen. I, two things that I've noticed in myself and my clients, and I've talked about this before, online recently, just to really, you know, give nuance to the energy behind the hormonal biology that's happening inside of us.

So we're priming to have a baby, and if it does, we don't have a baby, we release that egg and we bleed. From an energetics point of view, we also have to understand that if we're not making babies, we're actually creating this beautiful life force energy every single month in our body. And for a lot of the women that I work with, if we're not using that beautiful, powerful, creative life force energy to create something in this world, you are gonna have more painful periods at the end of the month.

And also just that discomfort in the luteal phase because we're holding something that hasn't been used and, and, and the energy hasn't been used properly now. Women ask me, or clients ask me like, well, how do I get rid of PMS symptoms? And I'm like, it's not just in your luteal phase, you have to worry about that.

It's your whole month. It's like, okay. So once you start bleeding, stop bleeding, and you have this fresh palate in front of you, this follicular phase, this is your springtime energy. It's like, what are you creating this month? What energy are you putting out there? And looking ahead at your month ahead, knowing that in a month's time, I'm gonna be bleeding again.

What do I wanna create with this new cycle? And that, that 14 to 21 days buildup, depending on how long your cycle is, that is the perfect time to be planning, to be thinking about planning and creating, trying to book beautiful things in or to creative things around your peak, your time, your ovulation is wonderful.

Podcasts, events, photo shoots, um, anything that you dates going outside, going out, you know, hosting, it's a really beautiful time of the month to use that potent energy. But also as a, as a woman, it's like. Creating anything with it, like painting, dancing, singing, giving, nurturing, cooking, using up this potent life of energy.

And I think a lot of women who maybe are stuck in the corporate world or doing something that's not in alignment with their truth and their energy, that's where this stuck, stagnant inflammation, disease, disharmony, which I think people complain about in the luteal phase. It happens in their life because they're not using this be.

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: And now just to touch on the luteal phase as well, um, the inner critic is, is this part of this phase and the role that the inner critic plays. So we, the inner critic is literally the, the part of our, our mind and our body that's like protecting and nesting this potential little baby that's inside of us, right?

So. And biologically we are looking at our life and saying, I don't like this. I don't like that. That's not in order. You should not talk to that person. Get that out of your way. Like the inner critic is literally trying to protect you and this beautiful potential energy that's inside of you. And that's where I think a lot of the stuff that's not working and not in alignment comes to the service.

And we can use it, be, be mindful of like, okay, the luteal phase is actually there to help us get into alignment and to protect us and, and to use this negative quote unquote energy that we feel. Or like it's pessimistic and oh, it's not working and I hate my life. You know, the little face is strong for that.

But if you can really like, love her and go, wow, thank you for showing me what's not working. What am I doing to make changes in my life so that next cycle when I'm fresh and have fresh energy again to use it more in alignment. Again, that's probably a.

Tonya: Oh my God, I, I, I'm so happy we are having this conversation and I, you're just such a wealth of knowledge and I'm so excited for everybody to hear this. It's so, it's so powerful. It, it, it just continually humbles me to be a woman and to feel and to like go through that process of every single month, having this, having these cycles, having this vital force shift within us and all, when you really think about it, like at the base level of being a human, it's all for creation.

It's all because the woman gets to create. And I love the idea that, like you mentioned, I. Channeling that energy into something. Even if you're in a place in your life where you like, whatever it might be, you might have a corporate job. You might not have the chance to be quote unquote in a traditional, creative way, but I love the idea of channeling it into a meal, channeling it into a conversation with a best friend or a dance or like, you know, it's, it can be so simple and it doesn't need to be this, you know, it can be, but it can also in a specific month or phase just be, uh, space to rest space like it can be in an, in itself, it can be so creative and it can be anything as long as you really like, give it your intention.

And I, I love that. I think that's really wonderful reminder for myself, for other women. Yeah.

Aimee: Yeah, no matter what you're doing, just remember that. You have this powerful life force energy residing inside of you and just do something with it. Do something that lights you up and brings, makes you feel empowered. Like that is where the power comes from. It's like we are, we have so much to give. We do.

Women have so much to give, which is why we tend to give to everybody. Always be that overgiving. And we have to come back also and remember that, oh, hang on a second. Especially when we believe, especially in our luteal phase, make sure that you're giving that energy to yourself to recharge, to rest, to, to let go and back.

But yeah, that creative life has energy. I believe that all women's health issues would disappear if we had outlets for this creative energy. And we're, and we're, and we are making time for them, and we're giving this reciprocity to the world. It's like the joy that we get back from giving is,

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: What that dance is with life itself, you know, and we're creative.

We're meant to be creative. We're meant to play, we're meant to have fun, we're meant to dance. Like if we're, if you're feeling blocked or stuck, or stagnant or suffering with any kind of health issue, I promise you start creating anything. Whatever that creative energy feels like to you, whatever lights you up brings you joy.

Do more of that at the right time of the month and then rest at the other time of the month, and then watch your energy start to really flow more beautifully.

Tonya: What have been some of the changes you've seen in women when they start to cycle, sink in their business and lives and you know, schedules and everything?

Aimee: Ooh. Let's see. I was about to say the, the most common thing that happens when you work with me is that majority of the women quit their jobs. Like, I've helped so many quit their corporate jobs and start their own practice and business and creativity in some way, pouring their, their essence into something that is definitely a common thread.

Um, I think the most common area that helps women with cycle thinking is this permission and compassion and understanding and empathy to themselves when they are able to see their life through a lens of, oh. There's something happening in my body that's making me feel this way, and they give themselves permission to like, to pause or to rest.

Listening. Yeah. This, there's this like, quiet coming home to something they've always known. It's almost like a, ugh, it makes sense now. And it's like this, like, not crazy,

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: like there's this, I think it's permission is the word, but I think it's another word that I'm trying to come home to. It's like, um, yeah, they, they, the, it's it's this beautiful,

Tonya: a surrender.

Aimee: yeah.

It's like a relaxing, like it's, they become less like, what's wrong with me? What am I doing? How do I fix this? And actually like, oh, thank you for now I understand this is, this is real what I'm feeling and I don't wanna do that right now. And that's, you know, and then they start to shift their choices and then their life has less resistance and oh, you know, this kind of energy.

There is more flow, genuinely more flow. But I feel like it comes, there's a piece that passes their understanding that that

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: happens. Um, that piece becomes better choices and better choices lead to a more harmonious, aligned life, which, you know, they sleep better. They, and the cycle sinking, I think, for food and movement and designing their life around certain things.

Saying no a lot more and then saying yes, um, at the right time. I think when you understand the power of it, I also wanna speak just a little bit to, cycle thinking is wonderful, but it's not everything. You know, I think there's something that is not spoken here, which is often these much bigger life circumstances that you know, oh, well I'm ovulating.

I should be feeling wonderful this month. You know, I can speak to this personally because I've been going through a really intense. Season of life, big life shifts and changes. Um, losing a parent is definitely puts a lot of into perspective. Um, I gave up my home, which has been the most bonding kind of thing for me 'cause I'm cancer, moon cancer rising, need my home.

My home is the most important thing to me. But I wanna speak to this because I do feel like cycle thinking is great, but it's not the be all and end all. I think there is so much bigger, um, life, uh, and, and spirituality more than just our own physical realm. So Right. We have our physical realm and our hormones in our body, but I do believe that there is something much bigger than ourself often, you know, guiding us and there for us.

And there are seasons in our life where just because we're ovulating, we might not be in that peak, you know? And so there's that. Yeah. That, that much bigger over. Yeah. I think it's important to speak to that because I think, oh, once people could be like, so become too dogmatic with. This philosophy, which I think is helpful, but, and then we get obsessed with tracking and, and, and diet.

Tonya: We get all masculine with it.

Aimee: Exactly. I'm like, what's, you know, what is going on? What is at the root of what's, what are you listening to yourself, to your life, to your spirit, to your, your inner knowing? 'cause your

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: isn't just your, you know, the period in yourself so much more.

Tonya: And it's, yeah. Yeah, it's like, I think the, um, the ability to flow through life and let the seasons pass as they will in certain ways. Like not resisting, um, yeah, not resisting what is, to whatever extent, like being fully present with whatever is kind of required of you through the move or through the losses or shifting tides of sorts, you know?

I, I, yeah, I appreciate that nuance for sure. I wanna ask you a question. Oh, I just looked at the recording as it was 5, 5, 5, 5. I know we are nearing the end and it still feels like, like I have a, you know, if we could just keep going, but I just love. I love, you know, that you wanna talk about, um, the fact that just like your decision not to, not to freeze your eggs.

And can we go into that a little bit more? Because there's fertility narratives, there's fear, there's all of these things and I would just love to hear your take and lens on this.

Aimee: I have so many responses to this and it really depends on like who I'm speaking to and who I can like trust and go in. So I'm just going to go in deep and just see. So I have my personal reasons. Um, I was on the contraceptive pill and I, I was healing my body I think for the next 10 years after coming off it for being on it for so long.

So for me personally, you know, going back on artificial synthetic hormones to, um, freeze my eggs was just, that, just felt out of alignment from my health journey. You know, I think, um, I had irregular cycles for a very long time. I had gut dysbiosis still to this day. I had gut issues that I, I know that the, the pill had a, a, a strong, um, effect on, on, on tarnishing my gut microbiome.

So I have no interest in voluntarily going on doing something like this. Okay. So the second thing is, whenever I feel that there's like a mass push for anything out there in the world when you even see like there was, so, there's such, okay, this is like gonna go way, way.

Tonya: No. Let's, I know, I, I, let's go.

Aimee: So afraid

Tonya: Exa I feel that

Aimee: I'm so afraid of saying things out loud because I feel like I'm gonna be judged, but I think more people need to say what they're thinking and I'm just gonna go with, this is just me and my intuition. So when I saw. That there were mass, you know, social media influences where doctors and, um, were giving out, you know, a lot of these influences to go and freeze their eggs and promoting their surgeries and promoting this, this, um, I, it, it just brings up something.

I mean, I'm like, why, why are they doing that? Like, there has to be a bigger scheme behind it If there's influencers out there and masks push for women to go and freeze their eggs. I also think it feeds into the hyper-masculine woman. She can just keep going. She can keep burning out and pushing past. So now she has a safety net that she can work her ass off until she's in her, you know, whatever late thirties and where her fertility, whatever, may not be better.

But that doesn't mean that it's not gonna be good at, at that age either. Um, but I do feel like it, it pushes women to stay in this, like hyper masculine, just keep going, pushing past their limits because, oh, you know, I've frozen my eggs and I've got a backup plan, you know, so I can keep going. So that doesn't feel so good to me as well.

Look, this is another nuance here as well, but like, shall I, shall I go there?

Tonya: I'm, I am so grateful that you were saying this. Please go there. Like this is going. Yes, it, it resonates very deeply,

Aimee: I don't know where a lot of these frozen eggs are also being used afterwards. I know there are certain, um.

Tonya: right?

Aimee: What's it called? Um, payments that you have to make to keep your eggs on file. A lot of people can't afford those payments so they can give the eggs back to the, the, um, facilities. So there's also like, I feel like there was a massive push to get a lot of healthy women's eggs prior to the COVID vaccine being mass produced, which had a lot of influence on fertility and women who weren't having periods.

It brought back on periods and a lot of, um, yeah, I, we know that there is a lot of studies, not, not enough studies done on this, so there's not enough data out there right now. But I also wonder if there was just like a massive push to get a lot of healthy eggs in this, in these, you know, banks before there was a push for this COVID vaccine, which again, I don't know enough about this, and this is again, just, you know.

Mm-hmm.

Tonya: Yeah. No, I mean,

Aimee: would you know if, if now it, because there was a lot of, um, women who had some issues with their periods, either missing periods or long periods. There's a lot of women out there sharing their stories post having this COVID vaccine. Again, I didn't know enough about it and maybe this, you know, too far into the topic, um, that make people uncomfortable, but I do wonder if that's why there was a massive push as well to have these healthy eggs and I just dunno why, where they're going and what they're being stored for.

Tonya: How have we never asked that question? When you said that my womb had like a visceral response, like, I, I actually felt my ovary, like my eggs in there being like, ah,

Aimee: I also don't wanna discredit anyone who has gone and, and done this for themselves. Every woman has allowed, is allowed to make their own body. And how amazing that we have this technology and the ability, look, it's the same technology as IVF and I and I, I think if I was in the position and I was married and wanting and desiring to have children and that was my only option because of perhaps my, my partner's sperm as well.

You know, there's the, the infertility is not necessarily only on the woman. Would I go down the route of doing IVF? My answer would be yes. You know my answer. Yes. I'm not currently married or in a partnership. So as a single woman, my choice to do that was because of my body and this, this push, this, this scheme to like, you know, make women do this.

I was like, that doesn't feel that something in it just didn't feel a hundred percent right to me. And something else also to say about, you know, I dunno if you know the book Spirit Babies about

Tonya: It just finished

Aimee: you did.

Tonya: Yeah.

Aimee: And you know, this, this spirit into this existence. And I think making love and conscious conception, like that's a whole other topic that I would love to share more about.

I'm very passionate about this topic, about becoming the best version of the you as a man and a woman, and then healing your body, your gut microbiome, your cells, you're getting the most healthy vitality, sp space, mind, body and spirit and fertility.

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: Choose to conceive, to have that moment together where you can call in your spirit baby to come in, in that union of love.

Making with an orgasm like that just to me, just feels like that's how I wanna bring a baby into this world. So, look, I, I'm probably an idealist when it come like a, you know, maybe, but I have this ideal way of like, that's how I want to bring a baby into this world. I wanna have that conscious receiving moment.

And if that doesn't happen and I went, I had to go down IVF look, I would. So look, I don't, I don't.

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: Judge anyone for their choices. But yeah, that's, that's where I stand on, on these topics, questions that I don't have answers enough for, and enough that it led me to, to not want to do that for myself. And I, I, I, you know, and it's, I have, a lot of men have asked me and, and, and women who, did you freeze your eggs?

Did you freeze your eggs? And now I have this like, guilt and shame and should I what? Ha. You know? And I'm like, no, I, I trust that I'm the healthiest I've ever been. My body is more fertile than it ever has been in, in my past that I know that when the time comes, if the time comes, like it's gonna be okay.

You know? I have that trust as well. But yeah.

Tonya: Thank you for sharing that. I think it's, I, no, I, I mean it's like these are ultimately all questions that we are allowed to ask and that we should be wondering, and I think it's really important to also. Zoom out a little bit and like, yes, the, the options are so important for women and it's an incredible time in history to even conceive of like having that option available to us.

But then when we zoom out a little bit and look at the culture that's allowed that to happen and this movement away from the very, very natural process of just child rearing and conception, that's where it's definitely worth a discussion and also a discussion I wish I was hearing in my twenties. Um, so it's, you know, everybody makes the dec the, the decision, the best decision for themselves ultimately.

And the more information we can have around all the nuanced perspectives, the more informed we can know what's best for us.

Aimee: exactly. Did you have to make that decision? Did you ever think about doing it? Did you ever wanna do it?

Tonya: Uh, no, I never wanted to do it. I thought about doing it because people around me were doing it. Um, but I decided not to. I didn't want that invasion into my body and into, um, I've, you know, yeah, I think I just, I was, I'm in a loving partnership and I've been in deep trust that when that happens for us and we're almost there, I'm just in trust that it's gonna happen when it happens and that my body's gonna be ready and prepared for that.

And I don't want any fear around that process. We're also doing lots of like, tric practices and conscious conception. So this is the way I wanted it, and it's, um. It's, yeah, it was a thought for a moment, but when I really thought about what it would take to put my body through that, and it is, I, I think like with the, um, with the uterus, it, there is a, there's scar tissue that can, you know, like it's not, it's not a non-invasive procedure.

Um, and so that was just my, my decision. Yeah,

Aimee: I hear you. I hear you. Oh, I wish there was more education and encouragement around, you know, conscious conception or like these beautiful or even tantric practices to prepare the womb and, and the body and the male and the female, and the connection that needs to happen. Like, I feel like if we were investing in, and it's not even just the conception, it's like being ready to be parents, being ready to, you know, to actually step into what does that mean?

The health vitality of not only your body and your womb and your, and your, and your partner's. You know, sperm is so important in, in this process as well. But then what that means of like having a healthy child and, and, and the birth and like, there's, I feel like we've put a lot of emphasis and energy on.

Um, falling pregnant and like the pregnancy part, but

Tonya: Mm-hmm.

Aimee: we're actually preparing for like a child to be healthy and to not have, you know, all of these issues that a lot of children tend to have post, you know, these healthy pregnancies and healthy births. And there's so much more to, it's like, what about healthy parents and people who are already mentally and emotionally and spiritually to, to raise children in the best way possible?

I think there's, if we were investing not just like, oh, a safety net of having children, it's like, oh, what does it actually mean to have a child? And we, I mean, there's so much that goes into that process, but we, we spend and invest more on like the birth, the nursery like that than actually for, um, being a parent, you know, learning how to

Tonya: Yeah,

Aimee: let go of the stuff that you don't wanna be passing onto your child, both physically.

Tonya: Totally. We could. I could. I could keep going. Thank you so much. I cannot express how much I love you and I love this conversation and I'm so grateful you are doing this work in the world. We're gonna link all the ways to reach out to you. I would love it if you could finish this last sentence, A woman in her soft power is,

Aimee: So embodied in who she is. She loves what she does. She shows up in the world, in her truth, in her light, and she gives from a place of deep knowing that her light and her essence and her energy is so needed in this world.

Tonya: I. Mm. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Where can we find you?

Aimee: Okay. My Instagram is Green Shaker. I'm definitely the most active over there. Um, you can reach out to me there. I obviously work with women in a one-to-one container. Um, I work with women three months, uh, in a, in a coaching called Finding Your Flow. Um, and then I work with women in a six month container.

If you're looking to go deeper into your soft woman, CEO success era, this is, uh, called Mastering Your Flow. So I, it's all around cycle syncing your business cycle, syncing your understanding of how to be a woman and how to show up. While remaining soft and being successful. So two ways to work with me.

I'm about to launch a group container, um, which is called the second part of it, which is a soft woman leadership, um, incubator. So I'm excited to launch that,

Tonya: Um.

Aimee: sign up to my newsletter, reach out, send me a message. If any of these topics really touch you today, please reach out, join, you know, have a conversation about it, have more conversations with your mom and your sisters and your friends about this beautiful journey of being a woman.

You know, it's so important that we learn from each other and I'm so grateful for you two. Angel, thank you for having me here today and asking such wonderful questions and can't believe an hour just went like that.

Tonya: I know, I know. Well, I, yes, thank you. I, I cannot recommend working with Amy enough, and you are just such a light and gift to us all. Thank you for spreading this knowledge and empowering women in our soft power. It is so needed. Thank you, my love.

 

Keywords:

feminine cycles coaching, soft power feminine leadership, womb wisdom, cycle syncing for business, women’s flow coaching, feminine energy in entrepreneurship, holistic healing for women, menstrual cycle awareness, burnout recovery for women, conscious conception

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